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3Sapphires March 1st, 2014 07:10 AM

another missed miscarriage. ....
this is so horrible....

I did have some spotting last week, I attributed it to a yeast infection that I am still battling.

My U/S was yesterday morning. Other then the spotting I was hopeful things were ok. I had been feeling more pregnancy symptoms, and still exhausted. But sadly, there on the monitor was my still baby, measuring over a week behind.

I was 7w5d baby was measuring 6w3d. No heartbeat.

And she kept looking and looking, while I fell apart. I have been falling apart since yesterday.

My first missed miscarriage it took 2 weeks from finding out baby had passed for me to miscarry. I don't know if I have that in me again.

She sent me yesterday for a blood draw, and if we don't have a foot of snow on monday I need to go again. Then I have a repeat u/s scheduled for next friday. but I really don't want to wait that long. I think I will call and see if they can get me in like wednesday. I'd like to schedule a D&C and avoid most of the mess and days of passing clots and feel like I am bleeding to death.

I don't know if we are going to ttc again. DH was less than thrilled at the idea of #4.

I feel like I am grieving the loss of my baby and will continue to do that until it is finally over, and grieving the loss of a daughter I will never have, and grieving never being pregnant again. and it is just too much.

valentinemommy March 1st, 2014 07:29 AM

Re: another missed miscarriage. ....
I am so sorry for your loss. I can understand that jumble of emotions going on. I have only sons as well and several losses. Every time it happens, I wonder if that was my girl. In fact, sometimes even have myself believing they all were girls and that I am just not meant to have one. It is so sad and hard to go through. I hope that this is over for you quickly, so you can begin to heal emotionally and move on. We have decided (more than once) that we were done and couldn't go through it again, but here we are trying. You never know how you may feel after you give it some time. Wishing you the best. :dothug: I hope DH is being very supportive?

rusticbythesea01 March 1st, 2014 07:39 AM

Re: another missed miscarriage. ....
Oh no....I am so so sorry. It just doesn't seem fair. I know there is nothing we can say right now that will make you feel better, but we are here if you need to talk to someone.

Mom2AnAngel2 March 1st, 2014 08:09 AM

Re: another missed miscarriage. ....
:hug: I am so very sorry. Going through losses brings out so many emotions. I hope that you are able to get through this quickly and are able to move on to healing your heart. I am sure that you and your DH will come to a decision that is best for you and your family. More :hug:

plan4fate March 1st, 2014 09:09 AM

Re: another missed miscarriage. ....
Oh sweetie I'm so sorry *hugs*

katydae88 March 1st, 2014 03:09 PM

Re: another missed miscarriage. ....
I am so sorry for your loss :( You and your family will be in my prayers.

The Purple Butterfly March 1st, 2014 06:40 PM

Re: another missed miscarriage. ....
I'm so sorry for your loss!! :(

butterfly721 March 2nd, 2014 09:03 AM

Re: another missed miscarriage. ....
I'm very sorry for your loss.

3Sapphires March 2nd, 2014 10:46 AM

Re: another missed miscarriage. ....
my husband is really getting on my nerves.

after I made him and the kids breakfast, and put laundry away, he decides it is time to clean the basement, and has me do the heavy lifiting like moving the couch.

then after I make him lunch while he watches me, and the kids lunch, and start a load of diapers. he wants me to go outside and measure the spot for the shed with him. ok fine

while we are out there we find out the plywood lid for the sandbox blew away, so I find it in the neighbors yard, instead of getting it for me. watches me walk down the hill, pick it up and struggle to carry it back to the house.

I said you know you could help me.

and then tells me, you are doing fine.

I said fine, I'd liem to see you have a miscarriage and do everything for everyone.

he stomps off telling me to give him a F'ing break and that this is bs.

he has no idea how I a feeling. not just mentally exhausted, but I am starting to cramp and the bleeding is starting, and I just feel like crap all the way around. And he is being an ***.

Mom2AnAngel2 March 2nd, 2014 11:23 AM

Re: another missed miscarriage. ....
I am so sorry that your H is not being there for you right now. I know that it really is not an excuse, but could this be his way of dealing with the loss?

Either way, I am so sorry. It's bad enough that you have to keep moving through life itself, but to not have someone to lean on is like rubbing salt into the wound.

((HUGS)) to you. We are always here for you!

katydae88 March 2nd, 2014 12:48 PM

Re: another missed miscarriage. ....
I am so sorry you are going through a miscarriage without the support of your H :( This is my first loss (and it is taking a long time for it to resolve) and I don't know what I would do if my DH was acting like yours :( I will keep you in my prayers and I really hope that your H starts being more sympathetic towards you and what you are going through. :hug:

3Sapphires March 2nd, 2014 03:25 PM

Re: another missed miscarriage. ....
this is exactly how he behaved last time...

doremi March 6th, 2014 01:10 AM

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I'm so sorry, Ami. For the loss of this baby, and for the extra hurt your husband is causing by his actions. You will be in my thoughts and prayers.

3Sapphires March 6th, 2014 05:40 AM

Re: another missed miscarriage. ....
thank you everyone.

He is doing better, I am doing better.

I find myself in tear quite a bit, but this loss doesn't seem as hard as the first one. Though I think I am also processing not having more kids. That is a tough one for me.

I go back tomorrow for a follow up with my m/w though I think I have passed everything. still showing + on HPT's I don't remember how long it takes for levels to drop back down to 0.

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