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frenchmom82 May 15th, 2013 01:34 AM

When the dad says STOP....

i'm 34 and i have 4 childrens (12,10, 5 and 3 years old). I live in France and i would want mom's testimonies about my little problem...
I want a 5th baby but my darling don't want an other chid. For 1 year, i try to make him change opinion with alls arguments i can (we loves each other, we have a bedroom for a 5th, we have no problem of money....etc).
Since january, it's difficult for me because i think about my desire for baby Intensely.
I take the decision to remove my sterilet, my rendez vous is tomorrow. Of course i said it to my darling. He answered me Calmly "you know that i don't want an other baby... i don't know how can i tell you: Stop, 4 it's good".
i said him: "me, i want a baby so i stop my contraception; if you doesn't enlarge the family, so put a protection, YOU".

Are there mums in the same case, the dads have they been easy to convince????
Do you think I am wrong to stop my contraception without his agreement?

I would just add a thing: this baby is certainly my last one of my life. I already miss him...

Thank you for testimonies....

Jenilope May 15th, 2013 03:35 PM

Re: When the dad says STOP....
I am sorry that you and your dear are not on the same page regarding expanding your family. I haven't any experience with this, personally, but I feel for you.

I do not think it is unreasonable to expect him to take responsibility for contraception if he is the one who does not want more children. If you secretly removed your contraception to get pregnant while he thought you guys were protected, that would be different, but you have been straight forward about your plan to remove the contraception, your expectation that if he wants to avoid pregnancy that will be his responsibility and your desire for one more child.

I hope that either you find peace with 4 or his heart is opened to more.

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