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kayakr March 29th, 2013 08:53 AM

Free TTC and Infertility Books
Some time ago I was gifted some infertility books from KMH on this board. There are several books 6 or 7 of them and an acupuncture book. I would like to re-gift them to someone who can use them. Please PM me and I will ship them to you. I will give to first person to respond.

I was not new to TTC but newer to MA and was hearing how IVF with Donor was our most successful way to get a baby. These books were gifted to me at the most perfect time when I needed them. Not only were the books helpful but it was so nice to have support from people that understood what I was going through. Who is next inline for these books? Hopefully they are as helpful to you as there were me.


KMH March 29th, 2013 09:04 AM

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I :heart: you, Gretchen :)

*JenJen* March 29th, 2013 09:16 AM

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how sweet of you to pass them on!

kayakr March 29th, 2013 09:20 AM

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It crossed my mind to try and sell them for $18,000.00 to pay for IVF but I decided against it. ;)

MandyEllen March 29th, 2013 09:26 AM

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Are there any about IVF with DE? Are they factual or more inspirational?
I'm interested.
My psychologist told me that I need to read things to gain my own view and understandings.

kayakr March 29th, 2013 09:30 AM

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There are some that talk about IVF. I didn't use them as a resource for DE though so I am not sure. I will go home and look and if there is some good stuff in there about DE I will send that one to you.

This might help you with DE - Lash sent it to me a few months back.
Looking to Be a Mom Through DE

Have you read Lash's blog on DE? If not you MUST!

This is not her exact words but something like this:

When you donate blood are you connected to that blood? Do wonder who got it and what they did with it? Probably not - you donate, get your cookie and share your experience about how the needle hurt and never think about it again. However, the recipient is forever grateful and connected right away. Same as DE.

I know this is queer but I am already connected to my DE and embies and they aren't even here yet. I am hoping they will be here by next Friday. Donor though - is just hoping for Friday to get here to collect her money and pay some bills!
I think I just hijacked my own thread….. I usually only do that to others. Lol

MandyEllen March 29th, 2013 09:53 AM

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Thanks, Gretchen.
I'm interested in anything that helped you because I know I am going to use DE. I think you told me it took you a little while to get used to the idea. I'm still letting go of what I thought our family would be, and embracing what it will be! I want the pregnancy, I want the experience & I want to see what OUR baby would look like!

I'm praying that all goes well with your cycle. April is a great month (my birthday is in April)!

I am on that message board. I recently joined it. I've posted a few things.

I do read Lash's blog. She is an inspiring woman. Her strength overwhelms me. I wish that I had half of her incite.

kayakr March 29th, 2013 12:20 PM

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Mandy – Here are the things that helped me. IVF is crazy expensive. I know we have one shot at it. Because of my age success rates are bad. We needed to make our odds the best we could and using DE was it. It just didn’t make sense to do IVF with my eggs at 43. Also having a DS already and already experiencing pregnancy I know I can love any baby that is mine. Having the baby makes it mine and knowing it is DH’s genes are all I need. I don’t even like kids! Haha! I am not crazy over other people’s kids –I’m just not and never have been even after having my own. Your own is different though….and it isn’t my genes that are important it’s my family and knowing my family isn’t complete that is important. Heck, my genes aren’t all that great anyways. If our IVF works – we are just beginning to learn what or DE journey has in store for us. I’ll be glad to share with you along the way.
DH wants it a secret – I want to tell the world. With Lauren sharing her life and Rhiannon with us I feel more compelled then ever that this isn’t something we need or should be secretive about. There are people that may need the little bit of help I can provide just by our story. I hope you are the first. Grieve your OE loss and move onto creating your family. You never know - you could be preggers naturally after a DE/IVF success! It happens!

MandyEllen March 29th, 2013 01:02 PM

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Gretch...After reading on that other message board, I have learned that there is a difference between "secrets" and privacy. One thing that those mother's with children from DE have said is that they want to give the power to their children on who knows. This way if the child feels comfortable telling someone then they'll be able to, but if they want more privacy about it, then that's their choice too. But it gives their life their own power in the choice.

Everyone is different. I fully intend to talk to the child about it & there are books that I've seen on amazon.com for children with stories about it. One mom on the other board also made her own book with pictures (on Shutterfly, I think) to make her child's story more personal for him.

I do know what you mean about wanting to talk about it though. I was feeling totally alone & thinking that I don't know anyone IRL who has had a child by DE; I don't know any adult that's from DE. May be that's because no one speaks about it. I wish it were a more open thing like adoption is so that there wasn't that "alone" feeling. I asked my RE if there's a support group around me that she knows of. The only thing they could do was put me in touch with a woman whose had a son through DE 6 years ago so I can talk to her and hear her story/thoughts/emotions, etc.

I hate that "alone" feeling when I know I'm not the only one. I am definitely glad that you're on here to discuss stuff with. That other message board has helped me leaps and bounds. My psychologist has helped me. I'm definitely getting there. I want a pregnancy/baby/family soooo badly. I know that this is going to be my best chance at it. Hopefully, by the end of next month, I'll be able to go into the RE and get an action plan going!

I'll PM you my info so that if you think that they books helped you & will help me, you can send them. I can pay you for the shipping! Thanks! (Sorry for the long post!)

onlybygrace March 29th, 2013 02:48 PM

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Gretchen what a wonderful, thoughtful idea!

*Whiskey* March 29th, 2013 05:33 PM

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You're so awesome, Gretchen :wub:

Lucy S. March 30th, 2013 12:59 AM

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Melissa and Gretchen you both rock :heart: :wub:

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