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ArmyWife28 June 24th, 2013 09:53 AM

Maybe I just need to vent....But does anyone else ever feel like TTC is exhausting or a 2nd job?

It just saddens me that it takes this much work to get pregnant. When I was on the Follistim I was in my RE's office 4 days in 1 week to monitor everything. Sometimes I want to throw my hands up and say "I give up" and let God take care of it, but I know that I need to help to make my ovaries work. Idk sorry I'm just ranting today.

AshleyO June 24th, 2013 10:00 AM

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It's good and healthy to rant! That is why I stopped temping, POAS, and everything else that comes along with TTC for awhile because it was becoming to much for me and that's not how I live my life. Granted if we hit the one year mark and nothing has happened then we will pursue some help.

ArmyWife28 June 24th, 2013 10:09 AM

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Yeah Ashley I don't blame you, I mean I became obsessed and that's not healthy. Good thing is I'm so busy with softball I don't have much time to think about TTC

momology June 24th, 2013 10:25 AM

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:bighug: it can be soooo all consuming. I am glad you have some distractions.

jessicake June 24th, 2013 11:02 AM

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*hugs* I absolutely understand your feelings! It seems unfair, it's supposed to just happen. I never thought we'd have problems!! The beginning of June was my 2 year mark of being off BC (we NTNP for a full year before TTC) and it's tough!

Vent away any time. Lots of us here understand!

Cait&AngelAbove June 24th, 2013 11:22 AM

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I completely understand! It does feel consuming and often like a second job. I have tried to stop temping and using opks before but it just stresses me out more.

ArmyWife28 June 24th, 2013 11:42 AM

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Yeah Caitlynn it stressful both ways, I feel a little anxious because I haven't tempted for the past 5 days but my temps were all over the chart so there was no use...Just have to wait it out and see.

BabyBirdies June 24th, 2013 01:05 PM

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I think for me right now, the "second job" feeling is about the emotional energy, not even just about the time it takes up. So that's something, for sure! :hug: I always feel bad about the fact that this should be so easy and yet it isn't!!

ArmyWife28 June 24th, 2013 02:55 PM

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I agree it is very emotional draining :(


jessicake June 24th, 2013 03:18 PM

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It is emotionally exhausting. I dread my period every month! Not only is it painful, but emotionally I am spent as well most months. And every day stuff can hit hard too, we have 10 nieces and nephews (who we adore!) and lots of our friends are getting pregnant or have kids, and sometimes that reminder is hard. In the last month I have had 3 friends and family members announce pregnancies :/ I can't help but think "why not me?". It's hard being left out of the mommy club!

ArmyWife28 June 24th, 2013 03:59 PM

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Aw Jess I'm sorry, it's sad but I know your pain. I have friends constantly on FB saying how they are pregnant, half of them aren't in a stead relationship or even married. It's very hard because I constantly ask "why not me?" Am I not a good enough person, what did I do so wrong that I have to struggle so hard, etc....

plan4fate June 24th, 2013 04:49 PM

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We haven't moved onto MA yet, and I hope we don't have to. But yes, some cycles it feels like all I do is check for CM, analyze every twinge of pain, take more supplements a day than most do in a week... it's just way too much.

epsilonbeta June 24th, 2013 04:54 PM

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Sorry hun :( It is definitely exhausting and overwhelming. No one prepares us for TTC to be actual work.

AnnaBonana June 24th, 2013 07:06 PM

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It is exhausting! All last week I had such a hard time getting up to take my supplements because I was thinking, how many other people go through this?!

And everyone else seems to just get pregnant by accident and here we are temping and peeing on sticks and analyzing.... And then we can't really talk about it because inevitably some yahoo will say "Well, if you weren't trying so hard, it would just happen naturally".... And then we have to deal with having to cover up a homicide..,, I'M JOKING. On the homicide bit, anyways.

And having sex. It was so fun when we started to TTC but now, the fact is, it feels mechanical. I love my DH and he is fabulous in bed.... But I wish we could DTD without these niggling thoughts of TTC in the back of my head. I actually enjoy sex more when I'm not fertile because then I don't have to think about it!

Ok, sorry, I turned your rant into my own! But yes, I know how you feel. I wish we could all meet in person and have one giant group therapy session with a big ol jug of wine and then hug at the end.

((Hugs)) ladies. Can't wait till we all announce our beautiful BFPs.

ArmyWife28 June 25th, 2013 08:09 AM

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Oh Anna I completely understand, somedays I want to scream because I swear my friends husband just looks at her she's pregnant but yet we try and try.

remisue16 June 25th, 2013 08:25 AM

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I had the inevitable, "Just quit thinking about it and trying and go out and drink and have fun and next thing you know, you will be pregnant!" Whatever. Just whatever to that!! Ugh.

ArmyWife28 June 25th, 2013 08:29 AM

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Oh yeah I've been told that before also, I want to slap those people in the face. Their completely oblivious to the situation.

KellJoO June 25th, 2013 10:05 AM

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Very exhausting, in every way possible.

I admit, growing up, I was SCARED to have unprotected sex because I figured BAM, the first time I do, I'd get pregnant. Thats how they taught us in school anyways, how EASY it was to get pregnant.

Now, here I am, 27 years old, I have unprotected sex just about everyday....and I cant get pregnant. I shouldn't say cant, because we did, after about 8 months of TTC which sadly ended in a loss. But, I really thought it would hav ehappened sooner. A LOT sooner.

All I can say is keep truckin..... something's gotta give sooner or later.

ArmyWife28 June 25th, 2013 11:38 AM

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Your so right Kelly Jo, I broke down in my RE's office and said IDY why I was on BC for so many years, what was the use I can't get pregnant.....Kelly my family and school also scared the dickens out of me too, don't have sex or you will get pregnant the 1st time.

Here I am 10mnths down the road and still not pregnant. But you are right it will give sooner or later.

jessicake June 25th, 2013 01:29 PM

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Originally Posted by remisue16 (Post 27475074)
I had the inevitable, "Just quit thinking about it and trying and go out and drink and have fun and next thing you know, you will be pregnant!" Whatever. Just whatever to that!! Ugh.

Ugh I get this all the time!! And yes, it makes me want to punch them lol I guess it happens like that for some, but not me! If it were that easy I wouldn't be at over 2 years now birth control free and no baby lol

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