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cutenurse24 May 24th, 2013 10:49 PM

Shock of My Life
I have been mulling it over how to say what I am about to say. So my mom called me this morning after my in-laws left. She told me that my dad had a CT Scan done this week because he was still having some numbness on the left side of his face. The family doctor had treated him 6-8 wks ago with what we thought was bells palsy. My dad finished the treatment for it and it never got better or went away, instead his symptoms got worse. So they did the CT scan and it showed a small mass in his brain. My parents met with doctor that specializes in radiation and an oncologist. My dad also had an MRI done so they could get a better picture of what is going on. We radiation doctor and oncologist already spoke to each other. They referred my dad to a neurosurgeon and will see him on Tuesday. My parents live in a small town and will most likely seek a second opinion. The oncologist said she could help get them to see some more experienced people with lots of experience in dealing with this. They think what my dad has is called a schwannoma (which are usually benign most of the time). It is pressing on three cranial nerves which is why he has been having so many symptoms: facial palsy, can't feel one side of his tongue, can't feel himself swallow on one side of his neck/throat, and he has lost all hearing in his ear. So the plan would be to either remove it or do radiation. The oncologist really recommended surgery because she feels that is a much better option since my dad is young and healthy. Since my dad's symptoms are just getting worse, they would really like to act more quickly about it.My dad would have to stay at least a night in the ICU post surgery and then several more days on the floor before going home. But he would have to be off work for 3 months!!! Which is scary for my parents because they really rely on both of them to work in order to pay the bills.

So because of all of this we are putting TTC with medical assistance on hold. Of course I already started the d*m* Clomid!!! So I am going to call on Tuesday and cancel this cycle and probably our follow up appt in July. No point in seeing the doctor when we haven't even done the IUI once. I think that since we are going to not do medical assistance right now that I am going to pursue acupuncture like I have wanted to this whole time but DH kept turning me down because he knew the doctor could fix everything and we would get preggo. Well the doctor can only do his job and get us preggo if Mr. Tightwad would part with some of our money to do it. It really hurts me and makes me more depressed thinking about not pursuing any more medical assistance right now. I had such high hopes for this year of getting pregnant and finally giving our son a sibling. It just hurts so bad that that isn't a possibility right now. The last 2 yrs have been awful, I really had high hopes the 2013 would be better or different and so far, not so much. Wishing it was 2014 already.

So I apologize for not being on here the last couple days. I worked and then had to entertain the in-laws which was so much fun. I will still be your co-host if you will still have me.
Thank you ladies for all your love, encouragement, and support. More than anything I covet your prayers. My parents names are Bruce and Cindy. I promise to keep ya'll in the loop!!!

Love Ya,
Sarah Jane

mommamindy May 24th, 2013 11:07 PM

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I am so sorry you are going through this! My thoughts and prayers are with you and your family and that everything works out better than you can imagine right now!

Hope2Be13 May 24th, 2013 11:54 PM

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Sarah Jane!!! In am so so so sorry!!!! I know you are devestated and I am hurting for you! I will pray for you and your mom and dad every day. Remember "don't worry about anything, but pray about everything" I know easier said than done, but I'm here for you! Sometimes God's silver lining is well hidden and nothing seems right, but somehow and someway it will be right. Please keep us updated and don't hesitate to vent to us!!

cutenurse24 May 25th, 2013 12:05 AM

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Thanks Jill and Mindy!!! I appreciate all your thoughts and prayers. I will definitely keep at in the loop and let you know if anything changes.

AnnaBonana May 25th, 2013 05:45 AM

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Sarah Jane, my prayers will be with you and your DH and your parents. I'm so sorry you are going through this right now.

My best wishes for your father's speedy recovery are coming your way. (((Hugs)))

rachoochoo2 May 25th, 2013 07:39 AM

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Lots of thoughts and prayers! *hugs*

Believingforonemore May 25th, 2013 07:50 AM

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I'm so sorry. It's a doubly painful situation for you. You are in my thoughts and prayers. I think the acupuncture is a good idea and even your DH would benefit from it. Good luck and hugs.

Melissadd May 25th, 2013 08:02 AM

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Just know you and your parents will be in my thoughts and prayers. xoxo

MommaLove13 May 25th, 2013 09:49 AM

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Thoughts and prayers are with you <3

inyourhonor May 25th, 2013 09:52 AM

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I am so very very sorry :( Your dad and family will be in my thoughts and heart. *hugs*

blahswife May 25th, 2013 10:43 AM

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I'm so sorry to hear about your troubles I can just imagine how sick parent can throw TTC way off. As I read I couldn't help but think of my father. M prayers go out to you and your family for your father's better health.

cutenurse24 May 25th, 2013 10:51 AM

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Thanks ladies!!! I really appreciate all your thoughts and prayers. I really need them because right now it still feels like it is a nightmare and or that this isn't really happening. I feel very numb right now because I guess I am still in processing everything that is going on.

Gamer_Princess May 25th, 2013 10:59 AM

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Sarah Jane I am so sorry :( I will be thinking and praying for you and your family :wub:

Jibby May 25th, 2013 11:12 AM

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*HUGS**** I am so sorry.

2015 Offshoremama78 May 25th, 2013 12:04 PM

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I wish there was interning I could say or do
That would ease ether ache and give you relief
Just know that you are in my thoughts and prayers
And I am sending you a great big virtual hug.. :hug:

hopeful_girl55 May 25th, 2013 01:19 PM

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I know how strong you are. But I also know that have all of us behind you giving that extra shoulder to lean on helps. Everyone cares so muc about you and with all of us praying for you and your family I know he will pull through this. You had to get your strength somewhere so I am sure you dad is strong enough to make it through this. I will pray for his recovery everyday and hope that one day soon he will get to meet another grandchild. Stay strong Sarah we all love you and will pray everything works outs. Bigs hugs.

epsilonbeta May 25th, 2013 02:32 PM

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:( The good thing is that brain surgery has come a long way. My dad had his first brain tumor diagnosed in 2002. It was on the pituitary gland and benign. Surgery alone took care of everything. In 2005 we discovered a second, larger, nastier brain tumor called a Chordoma which is cancerous. This one is not curable but we found an awesome specialist at Vanderbilt that has done 3 surgeries to clean out the tumor and here we are in 2013 and haven't seen any growth of the remaining cells in a couple years. It is really hard while going through it, but I want you to know that there are definite success stories. The early these things are treated, the better. Also, a second opinion is not a bad idea at all. My parents had multiple consultations with people "willing to give it a go" before they located the TN doctor that actually knew what he was doing for that specific tumor.

I'm sorry this is having to put your TTC on hold :( I wish you and your parents the best of luck in this hard time.

sareymac May 25th, 2013 06:44 PM

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I am so sorry you are going through this and I agree with a pp surgery has definitely come a long way! I will be thinking of you. Please keep us posted on everything and if you everrrr need someone to talk to please know I am here if you need to PM me. . . :dothug:

Beth2008 May 25th, 2013 08:04 PM

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Sending thoughts and prayers! I will be looking for updates, so sorry I know this has to be scary. :(

cutenurse24 May 25th, 2013 08:48 PM

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Thanks ladies so much!!! Your words of encouragement and prayers. Those are helping me so much!!! To me it still feels like it isn't happening. It is like deja vu when DH had cancer 2 yrs ago. I made it through this once I can certainly do it again. Just wishing I didn't live so far away from my parents. I feel like an awful daughter that I can't be up there right now.More than anything I am just looking for someone to tell me that everything is going to be ok.

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