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honeybee82 July 26th, 2010 01:26 PM

Does this make me a bad person?
Well my hubby and I flip flopped for a while on having a 2nd child. We were so set on not having anymore that I had a garage sale and sold most of my baby stuff (Swings, bouncies, high chairs and some of the clothes, not all of them thankfully) and I was fortunate enough that a lot of my stuff was given to me by my best friend who is done with having kids and so I just borrowed the car seat and stroller and play pen kind of stuff. I still have a ton of clothes, my crib, mattress, rocking chair and changing table thankfully...b/c shortly after i had my garage sale, Hubby said he did want to have another child b/c he feels like our son should have a sibling to grow up with. So we are actively TTC #2 right now. Well a few days after my garage sale we found out that my hubby's brother who is 17 and his 16 yr old GF are having a baby and after some months have passed they recently found out its a boy. Well since we are TTC #2 I haven't offered any of my stuff, none of the clothes, the crib or anything like that...my inlaws are having to pay for most of the stuff for their baby since they cant afford the baby on their own. Does this make me a bad person for not letting them use my stuff when my hope is to be prego any month now? I have given clothes and stuff to friends in the past who's babies were like 6 months behind my sons age so its not like i have a problem sharing...its just I dont want to give her my stuff and not be able to get it back if i were to get prego soon.

MzzMommaD July 26th, 2010 03:23 PM

Re: Does this make me a bad person?
I dont think that makes you a bad person. They might be a little offended but if they know you are TTC I'm sure they will understand. DH and I just moved and were going to donate all of our son's little clothes (he is 18 months) but we decided to keep them. We are thinking of maybe TTC this fall. We have been NTNP all summer, we would love to get preg right now but at the same time we would prefer for it to be this fall. But if it happens yay! :D
So dont feel bad, there is nothing wrong at all. :)

in_mommy July 26th, 2010 06:12 PM

Re: Does this make me a bad person?
I don't see where you have done anything wrong. I agree, just let them know that you are going to be needing it.

MommyHoney August 4th, 2010 07:26 AM

Re: Does this make me a bad person?
In no way does that make you a bad person! We did the exact same thing, actually. But it was #2 that my BIL ended up having. I'm actually scrambling to try and get my pump back from my cousin to let my SIL use it until i need it for our #2.

MommytoaMiracle August 4th, 2010 09:22 PM

Re: Does this make me a bad person?
Not at all...If you gave it to them, then you would have to rebuy all that stuff...I wouldn't either.

KeriMomof2 December 15th, 2010 02:29 PM

Re: Does this make me a bad person?
No this does not make you a bad person....
But If you are finacially capable and it wouldn't hurt to to re buy these things..
Then I would let them have the stuff sinec they need it more..
Plus it will give you a chance to et a bunch of new baby stuff which is always Fun :)

Of course if your like most and a dollar is really hard to come by then I would just let them know that you have to keep it for your soon to be bundle of joy ;-)

pink_piggy December 17th, 2010 06:18 PM

Re: Does this make me a bad person?
Nope I don't think so. You shouldn't be having sex if you can't afford the consequences. It's not your job to supply the items they will need.

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