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in_mommy October 18th, 2004 05:58 PM

<span style="font-family:Arial">1. No Name Calling.

2. No violence.

3. No fighting for longer than 15 minutes. If discussion lasts for longer then 15 minutes, it is not going to be resolved. Reschedule for another day and time.

4. Don\'t say never, always or you.

5. Say I feel, I need, I want, when I hear you say...I think or feel..

6. Don\'t go to bed angry.

7. Don\'t just say "I\'m sorry"; include "please forgive me".

8. Do not argue when hungry, angry, tired, or late at night.

9. Discuss only one topic at a time. It is not helpful to bring up old problems at the same time as discussing new problems.

10. Talk about how you feel hurt and why; anger is a secondary emotion.

11. Each partner needs to take no more than 50% of the responsibility for the communciation problem. A relationship is a mutal agreement between 2 people and it does not come easily, it takes practice, work, and time.</span>

I Heart 4x4 October 18th, 2004 06:27 PM

These are great guidelines! Thanks for posting them!!! :smile:

MT_joy January 26th, 2005 06:58 PM

Thanks. I really needed that.

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~*kath*~ March 2nd, 2005 04:53 PM

Wow, those are good guidelines, thanks a lot!

.Diana. March 28th, 2005 08:42 AM

lol those were great- Im sending them to my Fiance now. ;)

*Fiona* October 15th, 2006 04:19 AM

So glad I read this... I'm about to hand hubby a letter telling him how I feel, but off to edit it a little first.

TheBooths1992 October 26th, 2006 10:56 AM

Thanks for posting that, I agree with it toally , but I have to say me and my husband don't always follow that when we fight.Sometimes it can get pretty ugly.But we are trying at least

JensJulyBoy05 November 6th, 2006 10:41 AM


rose198172 April 17th, 2007 09:12 PM

Thanks for posting this!

Love.my.Roonie. June 3rd, 2007 08:38 AM

Thanks so much for posting these's

Miracle August 22nd, 2007 11:50 PM

Wow those are some good guidelines! Need to start following those!!

sarabella October 30th, 2007 08:28 AM

Those are awesome. I'm emailing them to DF now.

Those are awesome. I'm emailing them to DF now.

PrincessLou79 July 9th, 2008 09:13 AM

Those are some really good guidelines. My partner and I have been arguing a lot recently, so hopefully following those guidelines will help.

heyyou1210 September 3rd, 2008 04:08 AM

Thank you! I am in the midst of trying to figure out how to better handle our disputes, so I will definitely try these great suggestions and past them on to my boyfriend.

Dizzytina November 29th, 2008 10:02 PM

I agrree... Ineed to print that out!!!

*Kiliki* July 10th, 2009 06:25 PM

i seriously need to send this to my husband LOL

Cheet_oh July 12th, 2009 01:46 AM

These are amazing.. I need to abide by them!

jtcpb12 May 14th, 2011 07:47 PM

thank you but when when i say this .. i get a more rude responce back,,, all i want is a thanks for keeping the house clean, keeping kids,fed & dressed,, doing the laundrey ... i thank him everyday for working and giving us money for food ,,, that were we are now,,, he's pushing me to the edge,,, to the point where i want nothing to do with him or his kid

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