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Urchin June 21st, 2013 06:24 AM

When friends can't conceive
Being a part of JM has made me very aware of the awful fact that there are many couples who struggle to conceive...and the fact that many people don't really talk about it.

I haven't really known of any people in my "real" life that have had a hard time to conceive. ..until last night :(

We're pretty good friends with a couple that got married almost a year ago. Of course, everyone has been pestering them since that day about starting a family. My husband goes mountain biking with the husband.

Last night he told Dan that they've been having a hard time conceiving, and that his wife is on fertility meds now.

It's just so tough to see such an amazing couple not be able to have a baby. They would seriously make spectacular parents.

It's so hard to comprehend how awful people can easily conceive, but the nicest people in the world have trouble. Blah :(

AtomicMama June 21st, 2013 09:47 AM

Re: When friends can't conceive
Oh yes, my heart aches for my good friends who have trouble conceiving. I think the benefit to a community like JM is that it has made me aware of these issues and helps me have more understanding for my friends. I'm so sorry to hear that your friends are struggling :(

irishblessing June 21st, 2013 12:57 PM

Re: When friends can't conceive
Yes, it is really sad. We were kind of that couple for a while. We had our first no problem, then we started TTC the second. Had a MC first month and then took 17 months to get pregnant again. I was SO freaking sick of hearing people say "it's about time to have another one isn't it?" "When are you going to give your daughter a sibling" and so on. People just don't think about the fact that maybe people ARE trying and having issues.

Jessimaaka June 21st, 2013 06:26 PM

Re: When friends can't conceive
My best friend tried for 3 years. Finally on their 3rd round of IUI she has had a successful pregnancy. What I like about JM is I can find out what someone in her position does NOT want to hear so I can avoid saying that and adding insult to injury.

Sawyers_Mommy June 23rd, 2013 10:16 AM

Re: When friends can't conceive
Yes, my best friend is having a hard time conceiving and I feel so bad for them. Plus it makes me feel bad that we don't really have any problem conceiving and they do.

Their DD was born 8days after DS1 and they've been TTC since around the beginning of '12 and when I seen her (they live across the country from us now) around October of last year she said that she hadn't had a period since Dec '11 and they had gave her something to start it and she had one but then hadn't had another since then. Then she's tried clomid and that didn't work and now she's been doing some other fertility meds but they still haven't conceived. She has PCOS. I just feel bad for them because I know they want another child and are great parents.

humnck June 24th, 2013 02:20 PM

Re: When friends can't conceive
I hate seeing people having trouble conceiving, it really isn't fair when a perfectly deserving couple has such trouble and someone who doesn't even want it can get pregnant right away! My cousin had terrible trouble getting pregnant, after 5 years of TTC, fertility treatments, a m/c, she finally had her daughter last year. I just kept praying and praying that she would have a baby!

I hate that people just assume that because you aren't pregnant or don't have a child that you aren't trying, no one knows your business except you unless you talk about it and that isn't necessarily something that you want to talk about, especially if it's hard! I try to remember that and tell myself, they might be trying, I don't say, hey, when are you going to have children! I also try to remind myself that not everyone wants a child, so I don't ask.

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