The first
thing you should do is to choose an agency that you feel comfortable
with. You have to share a lot of information during the Home
Study process and you need to feel good about the agency that
is getting all of this information. Most agencies will hopefully
try to make you feel as comfortable as possible during the
process. They are not there to judge you or to give you a
pass or fail grade. They are there to help you become a family.
They recognize that in many ways it is not fair that adoptive
families have to go through the Home Study process to become
parents when they would not have to have a Home Study if they
weren't building their family through adoption.
The purpose
of the Adoption Home Study Process is two fold. As a legal
document, it lets the court know that families have met certain
state and federal guidelines surrounding adoptive families.
It also lets Birthparents who are choosing adoption to know
that their child will be with a loving family in a safe home
and they will be well cared for. Typically in agency adoptions
the written Home Study that contains identifying information
is not shared with the Birthparents, but non-identifying information
is shared if they have questions. Birthparents are given a
copy of the Home Study in many independent adoptions.
Although
each state has its own specific guidelines surrounding the
Home Study, most states agree on the same basic information
to be included in the Home Study. This basic information includes
a local and nationwide police background check (sometimes
done by fingerprints, sometimes done by name and social security
number), a child sexual abuse, child abuse and sexual offender
registry background check, a physical including blood work,
a TB test and a drug screen, reference letters from friends,
family and other people and a financial form that basically
needs to show that there is more money coming in that going
out.
There
are forms or questionnaires that cover such subjects as parenting,
marriage, views on adoption and your fertility process. You
can expect to write a short autobiography and should receive
a basic outline for the autobiography from your agency. You
will have individual interviews and interviews conducted as
a couple. At some point, the agency will conduct a home visit.
During this visit you will need to have working fire alarms,
a fire extinguisher and you will need to show that any fire
arms you own are locked and secured so that no children can
get to them.
Although
the Home Study is quite extensive, it takes a lot to not be
approved as an adoptive family. Minor offenses that happened
20 years ago or traffic violations typically do not affect
being approved as an adoptive family. Illnesses that are controlled
by medication and are not terminal or minor mental health
issues that are controlled by medication and counseling typically
do not affect the Home Study process either. Terminal illnesses,
current police records, being on the sexual offender registry
or child abuse registry are all things that would more than
likely keep you have having an approved Home Study. Not being
honest during the Home Study process can have a negative affect
on approval as well.
If you
have a police record and do not discuss it with your casework,
it can cause more problems in the long run, even if it was
just a minor incident. They will find any records, arrests,
charges you have had when they do the background check even
if the charges were dropped, so it is best to be up front
about everything.
Many agencies
also have agency specific guidelines or items that they include
in the Home Study. Some agencies might include information
about your religion, even including a statement of faith.
They might ask you about your views on disciplining and have
a special section in the Home Study that discusses your discipline
plans for your child. They might have you fill out a form
that states what kind of placement you feel comfortable with
including Birthparent medical and social background and activity
during pregnancy, such as a Birthmother who smokes during
her entire pregnancy or a Birthfather whose family has a history
of Schizophrenia. Many agencies want a statement from you
about openness and adoption and how you feel about continued
contact with the Birthparents, sharing pictures and letters
and talking you to your child about adoption.
When doing
an agency adoption, you may have to go through a Home Study
group with other couples who are currently going through the
adoption Home Study Process at the same time you are. The
groups are like the educational part of the Home Study. They
will include such topics as talking to your child about adoption,
openness in adoption, meeting Birthparents, grief and loss
surround infertility and how to put together a picture profile/resume
to be shown to Birthparents. Sometimes Birthparents, adoptive
parents and adult adoptees come and speak to the group about
their adoption experiences so that you can get information
from everyone's viewpoint.
This is
all the basic information that you can expect to be included
in your Home Study process. You may find that the agency you
use has a few additional things that they will have you do.
You should feel comfortable asking your agency questions along
the way and discussing what you need to have completed when
they do the Home Visit, such as child proofing, fire extinguishers,
etc. You need to remember that they are here to help you become
a family, not to judge you or stamp you with a pass or fail
grade. Work with your agency and be open and honest during
the process. By doing these things, it will help your Home
Study process to go smoothly and it will be easier on you
in the end.
For more
information about Adoption please visit FamilyHopes.com's
Adoption
Help site or their home page http://www.familyhopes.com/